The following things are concepts that, in reading them, are so blatantly obvious, but you have to fuck things up a lot to be able to actually ‘get’ them and change.
Ironically, this post is essentially of no value, because of the above.
- No matter how amazing your clarity of something is, no one really cares
- No matter how correct you may be, you can never tell anybody “You’re fucking up and here’s why”. It never works. People have to learn for themselves.
- You’ll never notice your own fucked up situation, until you end up having to discuss the exact same thing with a friend and say the exact things to them that they just told you about your own situation.
- Verbosity is always bad. Brevity is key.
- Observe, learn, research things but keep what you find to yourself
- You are in the situation you’re in by choice. If you can’t see that, you need to learn to be more self-aware
- Similarly, people who go through something traumatic, will usually attempt to throw themselves into a bad situation. They will recognize and leave it when they are ready, and there is no way to ‘speed it up’ and never will be.
- Be sure you say what you mean. Stop and check your true motivations. In fact, just because you have to stop and check that, just stop whatever it was you were planning.
- Punishing yourself by forcing yourself into a bad and stupid situation serves absolutely no purpose. It never has, and it never will. You’ll be free from the thing that forced you into this, but it didn’t go away, and when it comes back it will be worse
- If you make a sacrifice, and it’s not asked for, nor even known, then why did you do it?
(Editors note: I was kind of, sort of, really really tired and yet wired so this thing might not make sense – you’ve been warned!)
One of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do was learn how to protect myself. No, not from physical harm, but from emotional trauma. In fact it’s a lesson I’ve only learned fairly recently. But really, to understand we’ll have to go back a bit.
Now I’m not sure why or where it came from – perhaps from being a latchkey kid raising my little brother while my mother worked 20 hours a day. All I know is how to mentor. How to get people to overcome their issues, conquer their fears, understand their own motivations and all sorts of other essentially useless parlor tricks.
Most people wouldn’t exactly consider this a negative ability. And it probably isn’t, if you are a generally well-rounded individual and contained the whole gamut of conditions that makes us human. One of the most basal and important instincts is to not allow your body to come to harm. You know, the ole “My hand is suddenly engulfed in flames, I best remove my fleshy bits from the source of ignition and take care of this”.
Sadly, this “don’t allow yourself to come to harm” doesn’t really apply to the psychological state. It’s more of a learned trait. Like when you learned “fire = hot” and then no longer shoved your face into a bonfire, your mind learns patterns that manifest into emotional harm and also tends to avoid them.
That is, unless you have one of those “good plague” traits; self-awareness.
Lately I’ve been missing having an outlet to talk about all the crap that’s been on my mind. So I’ve decided to recreate Pavleck.com and for the love of GOD try to post on it on a somewhat regular basis. Sort of like back in the 2007-2008 timeline, when I had a bunch of followers and was generally a much happier person. I can’t keep this shit in all the time and my friends are tired of listening.
So things will look a bit rough as I work on ‘pretty-fying’ the site, but instead of the normal “Make it look perfect and THEN write”, I’ll write as I make it pretty!